being useful….
being useful is another way of searching happiness in life.
many have the fear of being used… fear of being manipulated like a tool for others to achieve their goal…thus being very careful, calculative when it comes to helping others so that he/she would not be hurt at the end of the day…
but isn’t our life, what we do, what we strive for all these while, is to find the sense of being needed???
we want to know that for existance here in this world is not just to waste oxygen, or the resources in this world. we want to know that we are not good for nothing. we need to find value to our lives.
we equip ourselves with education, skills, sports…..all in hope to find this acknowledgement from people around us. in other words, we are making ourselves useful….so that we are always needed…
our parents have been taking care of us since we were bornt. they have been educating us and educating us since the very beginning.if, one day, when we get married…they will feel the transient pain/lost. of course you will still be around always, but they feel as if they have lost their "use" in protecting and educating you. they feel as if they are not needed anymore. worse, if you send them to old-folks’ home, they would really loose the sense of being useful/needed….thus, all the naggings and constantly treating us like children even in our adulthood, is their way of keeping themselves needed…
it’s very depressing to know that you are of no value in this world, to realise that it makes no difference whether or not you exist in this world…
chinese proverbs "helping others as the base of all happiness" does have its truth in this case. i don’t know about others, but when i offer help, i do not like people to see it as me putting burden on myself. rather, i would like them to think it as my way of searching my happiness…of course, unless they are trying to stop me from searching happiness(or if they don’t think i could be of any help), they do not have any reason to reject my offer to help….
i too, like many others, am striving for attention and acknowledgement, searching for happiness by constantly being "needed"….reassuring myself that i am/will make a difference in this world….
原来,被需要,也是一种幸福…..
