a dragon’s head…
a question of whether a person has the ability to lead others to accomplish a common goal requires alot of knowledge and skill, and it’s very debatable.
1st of all, of course, it requires charisma…the term i’ll simply define as the ability to make people listen to you without having to shout at the top of your voice.
that doesn’t mean anyone who doesn’t have charisma can’t become a good leader.
a leader’s own perception of leading the team is very important. do not think that the person that you lead is working for you. instead, you should take it as a cooperation between members, walking side by side accomplishing the common goal.
during a battle, the general should always stays in front of the line, be the first one to "chong" to the enemy, protecting the soldiers, not standing at the last row with the flag, using the soldiers as shield so that he could ran away in time in case he looses the battle, or survive to accept the glory when he wins.
whenever a leader speak in front of all his/her members, he/she stands opposite the members. but unlike chess, football or any other game, not all that is on the opposite site is your enemy/opponent. as a leader, one should realise that it’s important not to make the members feel hostile. because if they do, according to natural human response, they will fight back, and that does not lead to any productivity.
when u speak, it’s important to get your ideas delivered. but what if they are not listening? are you just going to shout? by shouting, you are simply implying that your members are deaf that they can’t listen to you. more often, ppl can hear, but they refuse to listen, probably because your speech simply bores them. when you shout, it’s as if you are treating them like small kids, when in fact they are of the same age as you, or older. show respect, and you’ll gain them in return….
moreover, you should not speak as if the members owe you after so much work you’ve done, and you deserve a gold medal presented to you or something.
you do not demand respect, you earn them. and respect comes from results and experience. do not think once you are selected as a leader, you automatically have the "daulat" to control everyone and make everyone listen. do not think your members are more inferior that you, that you are at the top of the pyramid, and the members are merely the base for you to step on to reach to the top.
finally, a leader should know how to listen. you need feedback on your ideas to make sure you that your members are on the same frequency as you, that they really understand the ideas that you are delivering and if they really agree with them. the question " any question??" at the end of the speech is not just a formality, but it’s the reflection of how much the leader wants feedback to anyone who listens.
back in china few thousand years ago, chinese emperor could execute those who doesn’t share the same idea with him. everything done was accoring to his idea alone. but come on, this is 21st century, people are civilized. a leader should be abled to accept criticism and comment, without having the thought of isolating or executing the one who’s giving them.
