everyone lies….
…..unless proven otherwise…. or so said dr house….
well, it’s kinda ironic, that patients come to u asking for your help, but at the same time refuse to tell you the whole story about his/her symtoms because the smart ass thinks that it’s not relevant to the diagnosis of the disease….and then when the disease is not cured/ gets worse/or causes death due to insufficient information given by the patient, you get blamed for everything…
as a doctor, yes, you should get blamed, not for inability to cure the patient or the disease, but your failure to disclose the lie behind every patient.your job is not only to heal, but you should also be a detective, your ear should function well as a lie detector to filter the lie and realise the truth behind every lie.
and yes, of course, the patient wouldn’t know what is relavent to his/her disease, because if he is smart enough to know it, he wouldn’t be troubling u….
a closer example. a friend come to you with emotional and well….i dunno….love problem….he tells u that he has some problems….and that he’s very sad, troubled, depressed and etc… when you try to initiate conversation with him, he starts avoiding some main points….he will talk to you about the main problem that is troubling him. but it’s kinda like bits and parts of the whole picture…. you try your best to guide him back to normal stable emotion…..but you have no idea of what is truely happening….you have no idea of who when how….in the end of the day, he will end the conversation feeling much more better that he has expressed his emotions…..but still leaving you guessing of what is truely happening…and ur mood might get afftected….wondering if u have done anything to help, or make the things worse……because the person u help didn’t give a clue of what’s happening….and obviously didn’t give a damn of ur concern……
another example. a gal come to you. she tells you that " recently "my friend" have this problem with his bf, from your point of view, what do u think "my friend" should do with her problem har??"…….when throughout the conversation, it’s obvious that "her friend" she was referring to is herself….
or
"eh i have a friend har…..have this this this problem…."
"who is that?"
"got la…somebody la…my friend la…what should he do har??"
"har…..who??"
"aiyo, you don care la….just tell me what to do…"
in my opinion, when u ask a person for help, you should first make sure that u could put your trust in him. otherwise, it’s a disrespect for that person, and if i were that person, i would feel insulted…
for me, it’s very tiring to offer help to a person, when at the same time i have to CONVINCE him/her that i am a trustable person and i’m the right person that he has found….
i hate it when people ask me some questions, and after i answer based on what i know, or simply just expressing my opinion….the next question that thrown to me was " are u sure?? "
i mean come on, that’s insulting…i will not answer if i’m not sure. if u do not trust my answer, then u shouldn’t ask me in the first place…
and speaking of trust, i have issues with people telling and reminding me again and again that i should not tell their secret again and again….they’d say like
"hey, u promise not to tell anyone ok….."
"ok"
after a series of conversations…
" hey seriously know…..i trust you….. don tell anyone ok….promise???"
if i am the person who look like someone who would broadcast gossip to the whole world……you must be an idiot to tell your secrets to me…..no??
on the other hand….i don like people asking questions which they already have answers to it…. it just irritates me when somebody ask a question, and before anybody have time to react to the question, he syok sendiri answer himself…..i would intepret it as trying to show off….
but that’s beside the point…
since everyone lies, we have to deveope a special skill in our way to find the truth….i would describe it as handling a ballon filled with water, or maybe dong a brain surgery….. you have to handle every questions with care, as your "patients" are very delicate and fragile…..any small mistake you make in giving question will cause you his trust and faith in you…..and you will get further and further away from the truth….you have to first test how much can the "patient" reveal…..and then, try to access deeper, but not to abruptly….you should show calm and professional emotion when communicating….regardless of any shocking news that u might hear from him….. or else, he would try " not to scare you too much" with the further probably more shocking news….
but then these attempts of finding the truth doesn’t always work…. sometimes due to some promise of keeping something secret…..they tend to say…." i promise the person i can’t tell edi…"
this often happens in conversations. he /she brings up something sensitive to bring your attention into the conversation, then end up saying…." sorry i promise i can’t tell, forget i just say that"……that’s a stupid thing to say…..because if u don’t wanna discuss about it, just don’t bring it up. don just satisfy your need to gossip and raise someone else’s curiousity…..if u bring something up, you have the responsibitity to make everything clear….
and duh…..if i could forget what u just said….i would…because i would have the least interest in what u don’t wanna tell me….but our human organism just don’t work that way……we could store memory but we would never be abled to erase it….so if i tell u i will forget it…..that would be a lie itself…
all in all….i hate liars….(although this post has little to do with them)…..but then again, refering to the title, everyone lies. i would be insane to hate everyone…so i just have to develope my " lie detecting skill"….to discover the truth behind every lie….
