those that talk to you WILL talk about you
gossiping has been a favourite pass time activity since the very beginning of civilization of humanity, when they discover that their mouth can do more than juz conducting food from the external environment to the gastrointestinal tract.
when human start to invent different languages, they start to communicate with each other, forming a social cicle of their own. within this social circle, people talk to each other. and gossiping starts when people starts to get out of topic and wants to maintain the high level of interest of their conversation
to get my facts right, i got some definition from some encyclopedia:
The word gossip may refer to:
- the act of spreading news from person to person, especially rumors or private information
- the news spread through the act of gossiping
- a talkative woman (from the word’s original meaning of "godparent")
(note the last definition)
well, i know of a few girls/guys who gossip as their hobby and source of entertainment. the joy of seeing people "admire" them for the extra information they hold, the feeling that they "know", the curiousity of the unknown desperate to get the information, the process of catching people’s attention by leaking part of the information but then refuse to reveal the rest are just some of the factors of the motivation which make this activity highly popular.
due to constant human evolution, gossiping is not juz restricted to the last definition stated above. both sexes are equally compatible in this activity.it is one of the process of sexual equality. thus we can conclude that everyone who are capable to talk to you, will talk about you. it just depends on the type of information they deliver about you.
well, as fun as gossiping can be, we should occasionally stop and think for a while—those "gossip provider", if they can talk to you about other people’s secret, there’s a possibility( a high one in fact) that they would tell YOUR secret to others, if you have one of course. but i believe everyone has something they don want other people to know….or at least not EVERYONE….so it is safe to tell your secrets to them?
undoubtedly it’s a tool to convey information. but more harmed than benifit could be induced. damages such as misunderstandings,quarreling, fighting, broken friendships, or even war could happen due to the not-so-true information delievered, esp when certain "spices" are added to spice up the topic of conversation.
that’s why although gossiping can become a tool to make friends by showing your "friendliness" to others, you are, at the same time, building up a barrier between them. in other words, you will not have real friends. and very often, those gossiping about others would not trust people easily. they can gossip about the whole world except themselves….because that know gossiping on oneself is one of the stupidest thing one can ever do….
one can make a living out of gossiping too…the newspapers and magazines are earning loads of money reporting false romours about the celebrities….the can do so because there is always some people wanting to listent to these gossips…
i wanted to elaborate the science of gossiping…but let’s make it simple and remain it as a simple source of entertainment.
in medical practice, gossiping is not an option.privacy and confidentiality is of prime importance. we can’t just sit down at mamak and chat about the patients we’ve got on that day, commenting them from head to toe…. that is unethical, not only in medical point of view, but in basic humanity’s in general…. what do u think… building your own joy at the expend of other’s suffering……
so if those people can’t cultivate the habit of keeping their mouth shut at the right time,learning to keep secrets to themselves(in stead of having the reflex to vomit anything out at any stimulus), i believe he/she cannot be a good doctor,lawyer…..or any professional work. (not that i am in any place to judge, but it’s just what i think)…….
in the end of the day, we do realise the fact that the mouth is on others and there’s nothing we could do to stop him/her from talking anything about you….and it’s not a wise option to stop talking to that person. but what we could do is to do things with conscience, so that we have nothing bad to be talked about….and even if we were framed for something we did not do, we know that we are not at fault……..
